zankieupdates

neo-candy:

I considered myself straight until I fell in love with my gay best friend.

This guy on Reddit did an amazing AMA that TOTALLY reminded me of Zankie. I highly recommend reading it.

Here are quotes that I found really stood out the most:

“I realized that I had fallen in love with him when I realized that it physically hurt not to be around him and all I could think about was when I could see him or talk to him again.”

“There was confusion on my end but that was to be expected. It was my first and, to this date, only same sex attraction, so I didn’t exactly know how to react to something like that. Once I started to accept it for what it was then it started to click, and we moved very fast after that, owing mainly to the fact that we had been friends for years.”

“I was hesitant, mainly because I didn’t know how my friends and family would react, but also because I didn’t want to hurt him if it didn’t work out. Even before I fell in love with him I cared about him so much, that I didn’t want to put both our feelings at risk for what might have been just a strange anomaly in my sexual development (which seems strange to say about stuff that happened at age 24, but you get the point).”

“I think the whole process started when he told me that he had feelings for me, and I told him that I would always love him, just not in that way. He told me he understood and that he still valued our friendship, so much so that he still wanted to be my friend even though he knew that, at the time, there was no chance of me reciprocating his feelings. I really did love him as a friend, and I was so grateful that he was willing to keep it that way even though it might be painful for him. No one had ever done something that selfless for me before and I think that was when my love from him started to move from friendly to romantic.”

“Realizing I was in love with him was kind of earth-shattering for a few reasons. There’s the obvious gender issue which was very difficult to work my way through, but once I broke it down to the bare bones, I realized that this was a person that I would be happy with and what the fuck else matters? The other thing about that is that I had never been in love before, so I didn’t know how to react at first. Eventually I just told him, “Look man, I fucking love you. And I’m in love with you. And I don’t care about what that means in terms of my sexuality, I just know I want to be with you in whatever capacity.” That’s what it was like, it was so strong a force that eventually it made every other issue in my life seem irrelevant.”

“My parents are on board and they see how happy I am, but it was hard for me to explain to them that it’s not like I’ve been gay and closeted my whole life. My mom told me that I’m just gay and in denial (I actually had a good laugh over that) and my dad told me that he still hopes that someday I will meet a girl that will steal my heart. I can understand their confusion, but I don’t concern myself with it, that’s something that they need to work through themselves.”

“I also spent a lot of time trying to write off my attraction to him as just a very very strong friendship. But I had never before missed any of my friends to the point of near physical incapacitation, so this was quite clearly something new”

“With your friend, the best thing you can do is give him enough space and allow any feelings that he has to develop on their own. That’s what my boyfriend did, because he figured that being friends was much better than not being in each other’s lives.”

“I know my boyfriend has tried to date other guys, but nothing really clicked for him on the emotional level that he was hoping for (ie, the level that he and I were on, even just as friends).. .Given some time he probably would have been able to get over his feelings for me but if you asked him I bet he would tell you that he didn’t really want to. I don’t think he was “waiting” for me, per se, because I made it pretty clear that I didn’t think of him in that way. Though my feelings for him eventually changed, I don’t think he really expected anything to happen between us. He hoped maybe, but I don’t think he really thought anything would come of it.”

“So sure, some people are going to assume I’m gay, and that’s fine. I probably am according to their definition of “gay,” being that I am currently involved in a romantic and sexual relationship with another male. But what labels like “gay” and “bisexual” and even “straight” don’t take into account are previous histories. I have never before had romantic or sexual feelings for another male, and I still feel attraction towards women even though I am currently dating a guy. Does that make me bi? Maybe…but that still doesn’t answer the question of why haven’t I ever felt an attraction to other men before this one?
People can call me gay, bi, whatever, and that’s fine because labels make it easier to understand the world around us and if that’s the label they need to understand me then who am I to object? I’m happy as I am right now and it really doesn’t matter to me how other’s identify me.”

lukeysheart

thefuuuucomics:

solar-citrus:

You would be surprised with how many people in your life could be going through depression at this very moment.  People hide it like a paper bag over their heads out of fear of being judged, made fun of, seen as weak, or just not taken seriously.  Depression should not be taken lightly, it holds us down from our purpose and potential in life.  Those who tell you that it doesn’t exist have never experienced depression in their life, therefore not understanding the symptoms and how it’s something that cannot be fixed in a day!  So if you think you are depressed or if you think you know someone else who is, please talk to a friend, a family member, or anyone else in your life that you trust - never overlook the possibility of seeing a doctor for more professional help!!  Your feelings are real, your feelings are shared upon millions.  Don’t hide it, talk to someone about it.  With the right help, you can rediscover your confidence and begin life anew with our undying love and support!

We are right here!!

Things to think about.
punkfaerieprincet

harrypotterconfessions:

14littlejazcicles:

cloaga:

Slytherin wasn’t the only founder to leave a concealed chamber at Hogwarts— before her death, Helga Huffelpuff created a secret room which would help all students, regardless of house affiliation or purity of blood. It’s been called many things throughout the centuries; today it’s known as the Room of Requirement. 

HEADCANON ACCEPTED

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iwouldseriouslymarryyou

iwouldseriouslymarryyou:

Zach knew that Frankie had bad experiences in relationships and was afraid to fall in love again.

Zach agreed with Frankie that falling in love is scary because you would do anything for that person and if they leave you, you’re fucked.

Frankie made it very clear to Zach on numerous occasions…

just-2-bestfriends

Frankie knows everything going on in this house. Every single thing. Too bad no one in the house right now is smart enough to realize what he is trying to hint about. He knows derrick is running this game,he knows caleb is so easily manipulated,he knows caleb is using this all “i appreciate our friendship” thing is to help him get connections after the game, he knows cody is derricks little bitch and they pitted caleb and frankie against eachother. He knows it all! Love him or hate him he is literally the only one who is smart enough to realize all that right now. It’s just sad that Frankie realized it that late in the game or started saying it right now. It got him far keeping his mouth shut about it all,but love him or hate him you gotta agree he’s alot smarter than cody and caleb and victoria!!! VICTORIA HAS BEEN HELPING HIM MAKE SURE CALEB WILL TAKE HIM TO F2 , CODY KNOWS THE PERFECT GAME DERRICKS PLAYED BUT HE STILL THINKS HE WOULD WIN OVER HIM? LIKE HOW HAS HE NOT REALIZED THAT ALL THE BLOOD IS ON HIS HAND AND NOTHING ON DERRICKS? Like thats just idioticcc!!! And Caleb HOW THE FUCK DO YOU NOT KNOW THEYVE HAD A F2 SINCE THE BEGINNING OF THE FREAKING GAAAME? Oh my god how is everyone so stupid

Seriously!!!!!!!! Its unbelievable that Cody can’t see that if he goes to jury with Derrick he is going to lose!!!!Anybody (including Frankie) that goes to jury is going to lose. It’s that simple! 

I don’t understand how nobody but Frankie can’t see that.GOD it’s so frustrating. The remaining HG , beside Derrick and Frankie , are so stupid it’s laughable , really